Here in an example of a conversation that I have weekly with clients:
Me: What about this ____________? Can you tell me about it, when you last used it, etc?
Client: Sure, I have had it for years. It was my mother, sister, brother, cousin, uncles… I just can not part with it, but I have never used it.
Me: OK, so maybe if it is an item that has a lot of meaning, we should find a place where it can have a safe place to be honored.
Client: But it has always been here…
Organizers who specialize in working with clients struggling with chronic disorganization walk a fine line between helping the client and causing unnecessary stress. (FYI, I highly suggest that clients work with a therapist as well as an organizer!) I never want to be the one to push a client to the point that they shut down, yet if their system of organization was working, they would not need me there. Often it is difficult to see the big picture and envision the end project. In these situations, I will often suggest:
- That then "noodle" over it until the next session and give themselves time to think about.
- Or to "Give it a Try" and if when I come back next week, you changed your mind then I will help you put it back.
Part of the experience of working with an organizer is to try new solutions, learn and make changes. Literally, if nothing changes, then everything stays the same…(Is that a song?!?)
I like to remove the illusion of finality…
let's all have some fun and get organized!